Fear and Dating in Alabama pt.2
18 Jul 2011 2 Comments
So here I am at 43. And I’m watching Sex and the city the movie. I do not want to be a pathetic 40 something. Looking for love in all the wrong places. Unfortunately I don’t know where the right places are. I joined a dating website. Yes, I did. Crazy, right? I thought so too. I don’t want to do the bar thing. I don’t go to church.
So where does an old lady go? A dating website. I’ve gotten some interesting emails. But how do I tell these guys I’m not just looking for sex? Bluntly. Some have been very open and too blunt about their sexual tastes. Some have not been open at all.
Some are looking for a mom for their kids. Hell no! I had mine. I love kids but I don’t wanna start raising kids again. Some want to be a couple after the first email. Umm, hell no! Some feel chemistry through one email. Some are indifferent.
So dating. Wow. What the hell am I doing? I have a bff that I have chemistry with. But he doesn’t want to be any more than that. I am totally confused by the single life. Too many crazy pitfalls. Not enough alcohol to help with that.
There is a guy I met through the site that I feel a real connection with. But he lives far away. He’s a hot rocker. Long hair, smart, funny, gorgeous. Totally my type. If I had a type. He’s way smarter than I am. But we have so much in common it’s like I’ve known him forever. But again, lives far away.
So here I am. The southern Carrie Bradshaw. Without the excitement. And no Mr. Big in sight. Thanks for reading. I hope you got to laugh a little. I am laughing my backside off.
Jul 18, 2011 @ 10:58:45
I was active on OkCupid for a period. The consensus I got from the women I met was that most of the guys don’t bother reading. Not sure if that’s a helpful observation.
As for long-distance relationships – I say go for it. After basically giving up on online dating, I met someone on twitter and things are going really, really well. Our first video chat on skype lasted 6 hours and we stay up past both our bedtimes chatting on an almost daily basis. We’ve met in real life several times, including a holiday in Vanuatu.
Of course, not every long-distance relationship story is so positive, but then not many near-distance relationships are either.
Jul 18, 2011 @ 13:27:56
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